In the midst of an abusive relationship with a narcissist, it can feel as though you are trapped in a never-ending nightmare. The cycle of manipulation, deceit, and emotional turmoil can leave you feeling as though you are losing your very self. It is crucial to understand that this turmoil is not just a battle with another person—it is a profound spiritual struggle where your soul, made up of your mind, will, and emotions, is under attack.
The Illusion of Reality
A narcissist creates a world of illusion where the truth is distorted. This deceptive reality is designed to manipulate your mind, making you doubt your perception of reality. Narcissists are masters of deception; they craft a facade of love and care while secretly undermining your self-worth. This illusion is not just harmful—it's a tool of spiritual warfare. Satan, the father of lies (John 8:44), uses such deception to ensnare you in a cycle of self-doubt and confusion. You may find yourself questioning your sanity, feeling isolated, and unable to trust your own thoughts. But remember, this illusion is not your reality; it's a false narrative meant to control and diminish you.
The Battle for Your Will
In a relationship with a narcissist, your will is constantly being manipulated and controlled. The narcissist's tactics—lovebombing, future faking, and coercive control—are all designed to influence your decisions in their favor. Your true ability to make genuine choices is clouded by their manipulation. This control is not only a psychological battle but a spiritual one. Satan uses these tactics to rob you of your power and agency, leading you to make decisions that perpetuate your own suffering.
The Bible speaks of the importance of free will and the power of choice. In Galatians 5:1, we are reminded that “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” You were created with a sovereign will to make choices, not to be controlled or coerced. The narcissist's goal is to enslave your will, but God desires your freedom.
The Erosion of Your Emotions
A narcissist systematically attacks your emotions, leaving you feeling confused, worthless, and unstable. They thrive on creating emotional chaos, whether through verbal, mental, psychological, or even physical abuse. This emotional manipulation serves to break down your defenses and erode your sense of self-worth. It’s important to recognize that these attacks are not just about causing temporary pain; they are part of a larger strategy to keep you in a state of emotional bondage.
The Bible offers comfort and truth about your worth. In Psalm 139:14, we are reminded, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” God created you with inherent value and worth, and no amount of abuse can change that truth. Your emotions, though they may be deeply wounded, are precious to God, who desires to heal and restore them.
Breaking Free and Embracing Your True Identity
The relationship with a narcissist is a deceitful trap, crafted to keep you bound and broken. But there is hope and liberation in choosing to follow Jesus. When you turn to Christ, you are choosing to embrace your true identity as a Royal Daughter of God. As 1 Peter 2:9 declares, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession.” As a Royal Daughter, you are valued, cherished, and deserving of love and respect.
Satan, the liar and thief, seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus came to offer life in abundance. By choosing Jesus, you are not just leaving an abusive relationship; you are stepping into a new identity filled with real love, healing, and self-discovery. Romans 8:15 reminds us, “The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship.” Embrace this truth: as a beloved child of God, you are not meant to endure abuse.
A New Journey of Healing and Discovery
When you choose to follow Jesus, you embark on a journey of healing and rediscovery. Your worth is not defined by the abuse you've endured but by the love and value God places upon you. In this journey, you will uncover your true self, free from the chains of the past. You are a Royal Daughter, and Royal’s aren’t abused. Embrace your royal identity, trust in God's promises, and step confidently into a future filled with hope and restoration.
You are not alone in this fight. God is with you, offering strength and courage to break free from the chains of abuse. As you move forward, remember these promises and let them guide you towards a life of freedom and abundant love.
In this journey, surround yourself with supportive community and spiritual guidance. Seek professional help if needed, and remember: you are a precious child of God, deserving of love, respect, and a life of true fulfillment. Your new beginning starts now, and it begins with the knowledge that you are a Royal Daughter of the King.
With Love and Faith,
Sis Shantel DOTMHGOI
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